I assume you would prefer not to take oral medications, but topical ones are O.K.? Finacea, Metrogel, and Retin-A have been helpful for the p&ps. For the redness, I’m not sure because I don’t get real red in the face.

This website, SpaIndex.com: Guide to Spas, has an excellent series of home-made all-natural cosmetics which often can be useful to concoct your own treatments or products with ingredients you control. You could always try a very small batch of one of these treatments/lotions, using Jojoba as the carrier oil.

The downside is you may have to experiment with various recipes and you may discover allergic reactions to one ingredient or another. The upside is, you can make small batches, the investment is small, and you know the ingredients are fresh.

http://www.spaindex.com/HomeSpa/HomeSpa.htm

I find the wet hands / drop of oil method is best for even coverage and control, and you’re going to lose some of that coverage and control with the spray, and even more with the sponge.

If I apply oil in any other method, say on a cotton puff or cosmetic square, it’s too thick and heavy. Only the wet hands trick has worked admirably well for me, but we are all so different in our approach, and what works and doesn’t work for us, that I’d give any other solution a go and see how it works for you.

This is a little much but do you have access to a box of those very thin latex gloves they sell for medical reasons? They are very thin and light and disposable. Usually sold at drugstores. Much like the kind you see in hair-coloring boxes. Perhaps they would keep your hands free of oil, although you’d end up with a lot more refuse from all the used gloves and you couldn’t really “feel” your skin.